There was a time in my life when I disliked one of my co-workers so much that it was ruining my life. I'd get a pit in my stomach on the way to work and I hated break time because there was closer interaction and remarks towards me that would hurt. Then, during one of my daily devotional times I felt God telling me to pray for him and build him up.
I resisted for a while, but then decided to try it, because my life was becoming ugly. When I prayed I tried to put myself in his shoes and during work I made it a point to offer him at least one compliment a day. In a surprisingly short amount of time the atmosphere at work changed. I no longer felt the ulcer growing in my stomach and I saw I real person with hurts of his own behind the eyes of my new "friend".
Life became much better when I changed my attitude. We didn't become best friends, but we are friends. We care about each other. I think this is exactly how God wants us to live.
Today's climate is full of anger, distrust and condemnation. If everyone in the world would take the attitude I just described can you imagine the world we would live in? I try my best to live this way. I fail miserably, but when I do practice this method, life is so much more enjoyable. I even try it with people I don't have interaction with: terrorists, politicians I detest, drivers who cut me off. I don't know what affect it has on them but I do know how much it helps me.
I challenge you to try and love the unlovable. I predict that if you do you'll find beauty in this world and in this life that you never experienced before.
Prayer. Father, help us to forgive as you have forgiven us.